2 Timothy 2:20-22

5 common reasons people enter into relationship

  • I met someone I “feel good” hanging out with.
  • He or she happens to be available at the time.
  • It satisfies a mutual need – both lonely and need a companion.
  • The relationship provides an escape from an life’s problem.
  • My friends are in relationship.

7 generic qualities people look for in a boy/girl friend

  • Fun to be with
  • Good looking and/or sexually attractive
  • Share common interests
  • Caring
  • Strong
  • Smart
  • Totally accept one another

2 Timothy 2:20-22

  • Now in a great house there are not only vessels of gold and silver but also of wood and clay, some for honorable use, some for dishonorable.
  • Therefore, if anyone cleanses himself from what is dishonorable, he will be a vessel for honorable use, set apart as holy, useful to the master of the house, ready for every good work.
  • Now flee from youthful lusts and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.

Christian qualities to look for in a partner

  • Shared aspiration (2:21)
  • Common pursuit (2:22)

Be upfront

  • Lay out the conditions
  • Be gentle yet firm
  • Don’t be afraid to tell someone that this is not the right time
  • Tell people straight - "I am very particular. I am looking for someone with shared aspiration and common pursuit."

7 enhanced (transformed) qualities

  • Fun (Healthy self image in Christ)
  • Good looking / sexually attractive (+ Inner beauty)
  • Common interests (Shared aspiration)
  • Caring (A heart to serve others)
  • Strong (Stick to biblical principles)
  • Smart (Humble & willing to learn)
  • Totally accept each other (Grace & forgiveness)

What to do while waiting for a partner

  • Prepare yourself to become the person whom your partner wants to share his/her aspiration and pursuit with.